Most of us have this problem of not being able to say “No” in most situations.
There could be multiple reasons behind this –
-> you don’t want to do some thing but cant say it on the face, as you don’t want to hurt the other person
-> you know you can’t do it (or don’t want to do it) but can’t say it out of fear/respect towards the other person
-> you are not sure whether you can do it, but still say ‘yes’ because you want to do it somehow (or hope to do it)
-> you don’t want to do it, but just to keep your good impression, you go ahead and say yes and don’t care much about it (thatz rude :/)
-> You think you are a super man/woman who can do anything to keep everyone happy 😛
Am sure most of us can identify ourselves in above situations. Either of the case above, what we have to realize is that, we ourselves will be the ones to bear the damage.
At work, if you commit to something and not able to perform later, it can be treated as under-performance. You will not have a chance to give explanation, as you would be told you should have fore-seen it before accepting the task (which is valid). So, its better to think in all dimensions before committing to something
In personal life too, if you commit to something and not able to do it, it can be treated as not keeping promises or not being sincere. So, instead of giving hopes and later being seen as someone who doesn’t stand by their words , its better to weigh the situation carefully before saying yes to something or someone.
Even if you cant say no as you don’t want to hurt the other person, remember that saying yes and then not keeping your word can cause more damage.
So, whatever the case may be – learn to say “No” whenever it is needed. Its OK to say NO at times !!
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