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Most of us would have heard this statement “Its all in your mind” many a times in life. Today while I was browsing through facebook I came across this brilliant comic strip and it made me think again about this topic.
It happened to me many a times, when I am in a sad or angry state and a well wisher tells me this line. In that state, you get into the defensive state thinking the person is just saying some random words for name sake and doesn’t really understand your feelings. At times it also makes you angry thinking the person is blaming the situation on you. I have been in such situations and felt this way, until I saw it from a outsider point of view. That really changed my perspective.
This happened during a trek to Himalayas with one of my friends (am sure she would not mind me writing about this – however, I would not want to disclose her identity). Himalayas being so peaceful and serene, everyone visiting the place experiences a different kind of feeling, which is a bit more amplified than in general – euphoria or emotional or peaceful or nostalgic or enlightened. That place gives everyone peaceful time to reflect and think about things which otherwise we do not find time in the regular busy life. One of my friends got reminded of a really fateful incident and it affected her emotionally. She started feeling so low and getting into a shell, that it was getting difficult for us to bring her back. What she did not realize was she was physically as strong and was able to complete the designated part of trek each day.
On the last day, she reached the peak which is at an altitude of 16,000 feet, which is not at all an easy feat. She accomplished the goal, reached the summit and the beautiful view was right before her eyes. But she just sat on a rock there, not even looking around, feeling emotional and low. That was when it struck me how brain can play games. Physically she accomplished such an awesome task, but brain was not allowing her to acknowledge and enjoy that. Slowly we tried to explain her the same and after some time she realized what she was missing. That was when she got back and later we really enjoyed the view, took pictures, played with the snow and came back with wonderful memories.
That incident gave me a first hand experience in realizing what friends and family say – on how brain can play games and make you feel things which are not real. You can feel as if you are nothing, inspite of achieving many things. Everytime I get upset, I try to recall and re-tell myself the lesson learnt from this experience. In other words, I try to kick my brain to stop what it is doing and listen to heart 🙂 😛 … Everyone should try to do that 🙂
PS: What I wrote is purely based on my understanding and experiences. There is no scientific base or researched material..